We are moved to Louisiana. I took a break from worrying about the VBAC to concentrate on the move. It has been a hard process being over 6 months pregnant. My belly has really grown and the baby moves A LOT. I am a busy body by nature and it has been very hard on me to rest enough. If I work on my feet too much, I get pretty good spells of Braxton Hicks contractions and that horrible varicose vein aches and aches. Oh and I hate those hose I got through my prescription from Dr. C. I've only worn them a couple days and although it does make the vein stop aching, they are a major pain to always be readjusting and pulling up. Guess I'll pay for not wearing those hose after the pregnancy when my leg looks horrible and I can't wear shorts. :(
Yesterday, the stress of everything hit me hard after I received yet another message from someone telling me to reconsider the birth center we had been looking at. I'm still waiting to hear if they'll even take me as a patient, but I was just so sick of not knowing what we were going to do. I called Daddy B crying and my sweet husband was home within 20 minutes. We talked about what we feel our options are:
1. Assume we could go to the birth center an hour and a half south and plan to have me live in a hotel starting at 38 weeks, due to their policy of me needing to be within 50 miles of the midwife.
2. I talked with a midwife at a birth center just inside the Texas border who said she would take me as a patient, but she didn't have direct OB back up in case of an emergency. It is three hours away from us, but she wouldn't require me to be close by near my due date.
3. Call back a doctor in our area who said "he doesn't like to get involved in VBAC's," but I know he has done them and try to get a consult without mentioning I want a VBAC and then talk to him in person and hope he will give me a trial of labor.
4. Go live with my brother and sister-in-law in Texas starting at 38 weeks and stick with Dr. C. My mother-in-law would come be with Baby C while I was in Texas so I could concentrate on trying to get labor started and not have to worry about caring for Baby C if I went in to labor during a work day when my brother and SIL weren't there.
I asked Daddy B what he felt our number one option was. He told me that he had felt this entire time I should stay with Dr. C, but had wanted me to make the decision. I told him I was worried he wouldn't get there in time and he said he would move the earth if he had to in order to make it so I should just take that off my mind. After much consideration, I realized Dr. C is the only option I feel totally at peace with. Later in the evening, a doula I've been talking to who would have been our doula had we gone with the birth center south of us, ended up calling me to talk about the latest message I had received. We talked for 2.5 hours! She agreed that she felt I should go back to Texas because what is most important is for me to feel comfortable and empowered and the best way to do that is to surround myself with my support people, which are not located here in Louisiana.
So I'm calling Monday to work out the details with Dr. C. I sure hope it all goes smoothly and we can decide on a prenatal visit plan we both feel comfortable with until I'm there at 38 weeks.
I felt better today after coming to a decision.
Here's a look at the sweet baby belly growing bigger day by day!
My nesting instinct is realllly starting to kick in and we are waiting until after January 1st to start baby preparations. When we went Christmas shopping for Baby C at Toys R Us, I talked Daddy B into letting me buy the new baby a couple of outfits. It sure is different not knowing what gender this baby is and having to search through the racks to find something that could work for a boy or a girl!
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